[clairecParticipant]

Hi All,

My Mum was diagnosed recently, which was a huge shock to our family. Mum starts her treatment next Friday 8/4/16. I am going to try ad get her to join the site, but she has so far not wanted to make a fuss. I think it will help her to chat to fellow members.

What do you think?.

[mickackParticipant]

<p style=”text-align: left;”>Hi.</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>First of all try not to panic …its a huge shock (understatement) to everyone…especially your mam..I was diagnosed 3 years ago at the age of 46 and it took me 3 months to go anywhere near this fantastic website …as I said it’s a totally numbing shock so allow your mam to do things in her own time…Small steps and trust in the doctors as at the minute they know the plan…its fantastic your getting the info your mam will need to help her and of course your family through the emotional times ahead …she needs you to get the info to give her (small steps be careful of overload)…It was all to much for me to take in initially and I was an ex marine for years and it still put me in shock and limbo so auto pilot gets engaged and trust in the pilots (doctors) is a must in the early days till the shock becomes manageable. ..ime fit and well …had all the treatment they could throw at me and still standing 🙂 ….have family meetings and talk about everything…she will need you all even though she will put a brave face on coz as a parent they dont want their kids to worry..</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Hope this helps ….take good care of yourself also as when a family member gets cancer you all walk their path..so be mindful of your emotional needs ..There are fantastic treatments and fantastic doctors and people who will help…Try not to be afraid …I know it’s hard but I and others are on the journey also….you are never alone….</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Oh I’ve found that diet was essential to my recovery..look out for all the good cancer fighting foods…They really have helped me stay strong and positive</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Sending positive energy to your mam you and your family</p>
<p style=”text-align: left;”>Mick</p>
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[clairecParticipant]

Thank you soooo much, that has helped already.

I will keep you updated with how it goes.

Claire 🙂

 

[mickackParticipant]

Your very welcome Claire ..There will may be some changes in moods and eating/sleeping patterns as in everything when the treatment starts. .but as long as you look into the side effects and ask questions of the doctor and try to read and understand the signs,sometimes it may be repetitive but it’s the chemicals..If you have done all the above then you have truely done your very best so far and thats all anyone can ask oh and try to stick to this website!!..This is the only one you need for the right info, maybe try not to ask Dr Google to many questions 🙂

my family just did things for me without asking permission after a while as I was a pain they said…when they asked me if I needed anything doing I said “no” due to me being stubborn and I think when I found myself out of control due to this silly inconvenience  …I tried to control silly things. ..but I did need help it was just as the father of my family I lost a little bit of my father figure role…and wanted to protect them from what i was going through…but that’s not the way I know now 🙂

Small gentle steps and one day at a time…its the only way claire 🙂

Mick

 

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