Hello Dusk
I am sorry to hear of your problems you’ve had along the way. And it’s such a shame any of the MMers hvae to suffer at all.
I would endorse what you have said. I find it very strange to have friends and colleagues tell me and my husband that we are amazing. We’re not, we’re just trying to live with some degree of honesty and normality in what is far frm a normal world now. He’s the one with MM but we as a family are dealing with it together.
I think it is only when you are faced with something awful that you learn what you are capable of. I beleive that most people, if put in the same situation, would deal with it in the same way. Most people are, however, fortunate enough never to have been put to that particular test, so don’t know how amazing they probably are.
My husband has just started a course on mindfulness to do exactly what you say, focus on the now. I very strongly beleive that there is no point thinking what if, or focussing on what cannot be changed, but concentrating on that over which you have some control.
I would hope that we can all recognise a bit of that wonderful young man in those around us, to try to face this terrible disease with some humour and to make the most of a bad situation. I bet he thought he was only doing what he could.
As my sister says, when life gives you lemons, add gin, tonic and ice.