Mom's mental condition

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    KThompson
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    Hello,
    I am new to this forum. It's wonderful that there is a place where we can go to talk to others who may be experiencing many of the same symptoms, feelings, etc.
    My mother was diagnosed in Jan of this year with MM at the age of 83. Until that time she had been very healthy, never took prescription drugs, rode horses every day and lived a wonderful life. However, she began experiencing terrible back pain in November which eventually led us to the multiple myeloma diagnosis. She tried Revlamid and Velcade but could not tolerate the medication. She experienced congestive heart failure, plueral effusions, and her kidney function is compromised. Her oncologoist has told us he will not treat the cancer further and she has up to six months to live.
    She is very confused, has lost all short term memory and sometimes doesn't know where she is or who we are. However, she is still able to walk with a walker, has a great appetite, and sometimes is quite lucid. We have never heard from a doctor that the mental issue is from the myeloma. I'm hoping if someone on this site can tell me if this is normal for the end stage of the disease.

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    mhnevill
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    Hi "K"

    Welcome to the site. Sorry your Mum is having such a trying time. Don't have any specific answers, but just wanted to say that, maybe, given all the circumstances, less treatment is better at her stage. Is your Mum able to discuss this with you? Have you been in touch with the Pallitative Care Team in your area? I find their approach to pain relief very helpful.

    Lots of love to all the family at this difficult time.

    Mavis x

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    KThompson
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    Thanks, Mavis, for your kind words. We have talked to our mom about the cancer, the fact the doctor isn't treating it, that our goal is to keep her comfortable and she seems to understand. However, due to her memory loss, she forgets within an hour. My sisters and I decided that we didn't want to give her the bad news over and over again. It breaks my heart to hear her talk to my brothers about being well again. It has been very difficult for us to make the decisions as to next steps. Our first dilemma is whether we continue the blood transfusions. Maybe it would be better to let the anemia take over and cause her death than to keep her hanging on from transfusion to transfusion.

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    tom
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    Hi Kay

    Am sorry to see you joined the site on behalf of your Mum.
    I cant add anything to your Q as to what does or might not happen at the end stage of MM.
    Am sure if you talk to the Dr who is treating your Mum he/she will tell you the best way to go re treatment for your Mum at this stage.

    I just wanted to send my thoughts to you your Mum and all the Family at this difficult time.

    Tom xxx

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