My brother.

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    Hi I'm Nicki and this is my first post and it may be my last too. I'm quite upset at the moment as it was my brother Adrian's funeral today. He was just 38. He died with cardiac amyloidosis and multiple myeloma. He became ill in January this year and was diagnosed with amyloidosis in February. After being hosptalised in March he was then diagnosed with Myeloma and started chemotherapy on March 20th. After completing his first cycle of chemo, his light chain count had decreased from 327 to 37. He died suddenly on April 24th. I need to try and understand what might have happened. I knew he was poorly, and as a registered nurse I am aware that these illnesses were incurable. Still his Drs was positive and so was Adrian at the time. We all miss him terribly. That's all I have to say.
    I do have a place in this years Great North Run, and I shall be running it in his honour.

    #87608

    dickb
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    I am really sorry to hear about your brother's death and offer my condolences. It is a truly awful illness because you just don't know what its going to throw up next. There are lots of very inspiring people on this website who will give you help and support but would suggest you keep pushing the doctors for an answer. I know it won't bring him back but it might just help with giving closure.

    #87609

    Mothas
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    Hi Nicki
    I'm really sorry for your loss. 38 is no age and is young to develop myeloma.

    Myeloma is a horribly complex disease that is really a collection of different myeloma forms (clones). It has multiple impacts on different parts of the body so can interact with pre-existing conditions too.

    The disease and the treatment also hammers the immune system and makes us all very susceptible to infections.

    I would be asking searching questions of the consultants to find out what happened.

    all the best

    Tom

    #87610

    PatG
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    Hi Nicki,
    I am so very sorry for your loss. Your brother was far too young and I hope you get some answers as to why he died so suddenly. I have Amyloidosis but fortunately with no cardiac involvement. I wonder if the amyloid deposits on his heart had damaged it to such an extent that it caused a massive heart attack? The amyloids take a considerable amount of time to dissipate/be re-absorbed after the bone marrow source has been reduced/eliminated. I have been told that once the light chains are down (47 at present) it can take 18 months for the amyloid on my kidneys,liver and spleen to decrease in any sort of numbers. I can only say that if it was my brother I would be contacting the consultant for a more comprehensive reason for his passing. I do hope that you will eventually be able to come to terms with Adrian's death and get some very necessary answers to your questions.
    With love
    Pat

    #87611

    DaiCro
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    Hi Nicki,

    You say that Adrian and his Doctors were both positive after his first cycle of his frontline treatment… with a drop in his light chains from 327 to 37 he would have every reason to be positive. The fact that his Doctors were positive as well suggests that they were not too worried about his other problems, specifically his amyloidosis.

    You also say that he was hospitalised after his amyloidosis diagnosis but before they discovered that he also had MM. That is what you need to have clarified by his Doctors in my opinion. Just how ill was he before starting treatment with his frontline chemotherapy. There are quite a few people on this board who have had treatment postponed or cancelled until further notice due to secondary problems or illnesses. The fact that they allowed Adrian to start treatment suggests that they were not overly concerned with his secondary problems. There is no doubt that his chemotherapy treatment would have an effect on Adrian… some of us get through it relatively easily but others have had a torrid time.

    Q 1. Did Adrian have his 2nd Cycle? – From March 20th to April 24th suggests that he would have been due to have had his 2nd Cycle and if he did have his 2nd Cycle then what effect could that have had on his body – especially in relation to the cardiac nature of his amyloidosis.

    Q 2. If he didn't have his 2nd Cycle then why not? – Was it postponed or cancelled due to illness or poor blood readings? if so then the Doctors should be able to tell you why… and if it was due to his amyloidosis, especially cardiac amyloidosis, then there might be where the problem lies.

    I appreciate that you and your family will want to know the answer to these questions and I imagine that you feel a lot of pressure to come up with answers because you are a nurse… but we know it doest work like that. Adrian's death certificate will give a clue to what caused his death but a proper report from his Haematology team will go a long way towards giving you and your family some sort of peace of mind.

    Adrian's light chain decrease shows that his frontline treatment was working very well and without the secondary problems, especially the cardiac nature of his amyloidosis, he may well have lived for several years. MM treatments are designed to knock back the MM several times, hopefully with 2 or 3 lengths of good remission, where more or less 'normal' life can be enjoyed. MM is a very personal disease so it is very difficult to say how long Adrian might have lived… dependant on how well he responded to the different treatments. It is the 'cardiac' nature of his amyloidosis that worries me but I am only a patient and I am only trying to look at Adrian's MM and related problems in a way that might help you formulate some questions for Adrian's Doctors so you can [i]'Try and understand what might have happened'.[/i]

    I would like to extend my best wishes to you and your family and I hope that you are able to support each other through this time.

    Best regards

    Dai.

    #87612

    san
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    So sorry to hear your sad news, i do hope that you find answers to your questions soon, and wish you all the best with your run, San.

    #87613

    Vicki
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    Hello Nicky

    So sorry to hear of your loss. Mm is a very unpredictable condition and your brother so young. Our thoughts are with you.

    Vicki and Colin x

    #87614

    tom
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    Hi Nicki

    I am so sorry to hear of your loss, My condolences to you and Adrian's family and friends.
    Am sure it wasn't easy for you all and am sure you need answers to the why and hows.

    Stay strong

    Love Tom x

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