Hi Kim
Welcome to the forum.
I can understand you wanting to be close to family and friends but I have to say the treatment in America is more advanced than in this country,if you can pay private you can get some drugs the NHS will not offer,I know the Marsdon is treating at least one patient with drugs not available on NHS.also NICE have a lot of imput the have a criteria that consultants have to follow.
It still is a postcode lottery,depends were you are for trials.plus any admission to hospital is different some are able to go straight to unit,but in my husbands case it's A&E then it's finding a suitable bed.
If I was in your shoes I would stay in America,has your husband any family that live near by????
An awful lot of people who work for the NHS are under pressure,and patients have long waiting times for treatment,but it does vary all over the country, Eve