Hi Steve,
Sorry you had to join the club.
I'm 47 and will be starting PAD in January (bortezomib, doxorubicin and dexamethasone) for 2 cycles leading to an autologous stem cell transplant hopefully around April time.
I'm based in london and will be treated at UCH. I can only echo the comments above, learn as much about this crappy disease as possible (know your enemy), the resources on this site are good and also the myeloma beacon site.
The more you know, the better informed your treatment options will be, the better chance you will have of hanging in there until they manage a cure or near as damn it.
Your consultant doesn't sound that helpful? Maybe think about finding someone else although this process can be complicated in its own right.
Hang in there brother.
Tom