Your not alone there, my mum has my dad on the bedside table on the side he slept. He has a photo on top, and my mum is comforted that he is still there with her. She talks to him, and we have decided that my mum will be put with him when that time comes. She is more than happy with this. Do what's best for you. Vicky c

Hi Jackie, I don't think you can fill that hole, and don't try to. I lost my dad last October, he'd had mm for 5 years. I still cry every day, the reason I cry is for my mum, I loved my dad dearly, but the loss for her is heart breaking. We talk everyday about him, the things that made us laugh, the fact he could be so miserable. All the things we…[Read more]

I am glad you waffled, you are making our own grief understandable. We are all coping differently, but one thing is the same, we are desperately missing our loved one. I am unable to talk to anyone incase they are nice to me as I know I will break down. We have my dads funeral on Friday, and I am dreading it. I'm hoping it's because I don't want…[Read more]

Thank you for all your messages. The one thing everybody agree's with that this is a horrible disease. When we read it on the death certificate we had this urge to stamp on the words multiple myeloma. Vicky

I cannot tell you how much this has helped. Today my mum also read it, it took time In between tears but she got there. It helps me to understand what she is going through and will go through, and for her, that she is not alone! Thank you Vicky

Thank you for your kind messages. Someone mentioned mm widows how I find this forum? I would love to introduce my mum to this I think it would be a comfort. She has already expressed her need to speak to other widows. Thanks Vicky

Thank you David.
You are quite inspirational in your approach. My mum has always been the emotionally strong one with my dad and took care of the household. My dad was a practical man and fixed anything and everything. The sad thing for all of us is remembering him as he was just compounds our devastation of losing…[Read more]

Thanks Tom,
The strength people have on this forum is amazing. At the moment I'm scared to lose him but scared of his suffering. Vicky