Myeloma Forum | VictoriaChandler | Activity https://forum.myeloma.org.uk/members/Vickyc/activity/ Activity feed for VictoriaChandler. Sun, 26 Apr 2026 11:37:20 +0100 https://buddypress.org/?v=2.9.4 en-GB 30 hourly 2 584b44cf6fa0e1bbafde5b1c7bc4b335 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic Not the Right Time in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/not-the-right-time#post-108200 Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:19:54 +0100 Your not alone there, my mum has my dad on the bedside table on the side he slept. He has a photo on top, and my mum is comforted that he is still there with her. She talks to him, and we have decided that my mum will be put with him when that time comes. She is more than happy with this. Do what's best for you. Vicky c

]]> f552edeba47b7d7068e84b66146c1e36 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic How do I fill this empty hole in my life? in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/how-do-i-fill-this-empty-hole-in-my-life#post-108181 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:41:59 +0100 Hi Jackie, I don't think you can fill that hole, and don't try to. I lost my dad last October, he'd had mm for 5 years. I still cry every day, the reason I cry is for my mum, I loved my dad dearly, but the loss for her is heart breaking. We talk everyday about him, the things that made us laugh, the fact he could be so miserable. All the things we…[Read more]

]]> 0869dc7ce839dde9ae425a8c8088deb5 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic Stephen It was a real celebration in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/stephen-it-was-a-real-celebration#post-107863 Mon, 29 Oct 2012 19:39:00 +0000 I am glad you waffled, you are making our own grief understandable. We are all coping differently, but one thing is the same, we are desperately missing our loved one. I am unable to talk to anyone incase they are nice to me as I know I will break down. We have my dads funeral on Friday, and I am dreading it. I'm hoping it's because I don't want…[Read more]

]]> 971158dbe113f7cb854dc68d28d09664 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic We lost our dad. in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/we-lost-our-dad#post-107884 Mon, 22 Oct 2012 15:40:54 +0100 Thank you for all your messages. The one thing everybody agree's with that this is a horrible disease. When we read it on the death certificate we had this urge to stamp on the words multiple myeloma. Vicky

]]> ebcb5c1dfa9e9fa2318b2056460d8a07 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic This may help someone, in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/this-may-help-someone#post-107875 Sun, 21 Oct 2012 21:05:25 +0100 I cannot tell you how much this has helped. Today my mum also read it, it took time In between tears but she got there. It helps me to understand what she is going through and will go through, and for her, that she is not alone! Thank you Vicky

]]> 1afa62ebc84c26a20517f5118d2a8a18 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic We lost our dad. in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/we-lost-our-dad#post-107879 Sat, 20 Oct 2012 08:08:31 +0100 Thank you for your kind messages. Someone mentioned mm widows how I find this forum? I would love to introduce my mum to this I think it would be a comfort. She has already expressed her need to speak to other widows. Thanks Vicky

]]> f8a0d56a090e13eee26daf5f4eab9760 VictoriaChandler started the topic We lost our dad.. in the forum End of Life and Grief http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/we-lost-our-dad Fri, 19 Oct 2012 19:50:37 +0100 I introduced myself a few days ago, and I'm now back informing you my dad lost his battle with mm. We are all numb, but grateful we were all there with him. As awful as we are finding it it must be 1000 x worse for my mum. I don't know how to help her, she is strong but like today when she registered his death It all became to real. How do…[Read more]

]]> 023baa3bfe42252feac6f5ef7f09a516 VictoriaChandler replied to the topic New to this forum but not mm. in the forum Newcomers http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/new-to-this-forum-but-not-mm#post-86790 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 11:43:42 +0100 Thank you David.
You are quite inspirational in your approach. My mum has always been the emotionally strong one with my dad and took care of the household. My dad was a practical man and fixed anything and everything. The sad thing for all of us is remembering him as he was just compounds our devastation of losing…[Read more]

]]> 0274f0abd0bfff02efaab6da4157fafc VictoriaChandler replied to the topic New to this forum but not mm. in the forum Newcomers http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/new-to-this-forum-but-not-mm#post-86788 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 07:21:34 +0100 Thanks Tom,
The strength people have on this forum is amazing. At the moment I'm scared to lose him but scared of his suffering. Vicky

]]> f84e62b3f3ad3687eaaf5744e7133e68 VictoriaChandler started the topic New to this forum but not mm.. in the forum Newcomers http://www.myeloma.org.uk/forums/topic/new-to-this-forum-but-not-mm Mon, 15 Oct 2012 18:48:35 +0100 Hello, my name is Vicky, my dad at 70 has an aggressive mm. He has had for 5 years, and has fought so well. You name a drug he's had it and many combinations besides. In the last 2 weeks he has gone down hill, the tumour on his spine has now left him paralysed from the waist down. We are fortunate to have a medical family, so have brought my dad…[Read more]

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