Hi Gregg, Hi AnnLynn,
Thanks ever so much for responding to me – I wasn’t at all hopeful when I first posted.
I appreciate that it’s quite a odd way to come in on this topic. I was asked the question of ‘so…how does it end, typically…?’ by a work colleague and I just had no idea how to answer. That’s why it was foremost in my mind.
We’re a long way away, distance-wise. And, in fairness, we haven’t been very close for the last 20 years anyway (he isn’t a very nice man), so there’s lots of difficult factors at play. I’d like to speak to one of his consultants but we’ve never met one. We went up before Christmas for a weekend and only saw nursing staff. And I suspect we’re getting a rather truncated version of his illness from him and his gf. It’s all just…confusing, more than anything.
We will go up to see him again at some point. I just have no idea when – and a lot has to be right for that to happen (he needs to be well enough to see us, plus sorting childcare, no colds or sniffles etc). Working with so many unknowns just isn’t helpful for planning purposes, I guess. I want to do the right thing. But I also don’t want to get sucked into his toxic behaviours… Ugh. Sorry. I wish I could be more positive.
I guess I’m trying to get a handle of his specific disease outcome, so that I can try and assimilate all of the other issues around ‘him’. But it doesn’t look as if that’ll be possible. We’ll just have to muddle on through.
Thanks again for your time, both – and please let me wish you all the best for your recovery/the recovery of your loved ones.
Best, Bx
