Hi Roz,
Good to hear that a positive action came out of your visit. I do believe, from personal experience, writing things down definately helps it unscrambles your brain leaving you free to include positive thoughts which we need to get on with our lives.
I was struggling in particular with the events of the last three days of Patrick's life and it wasn't until I wrote down everything I could remember during that time that I came to terms with events and they stopped rolling around in my head and dominating my life.
Roz,you must look after yourself first, Rachael's time will come of that I am certain.
Love
Tina X