Hi Miley, it is a perfectly normal, natural reaction to a diagnosis like myeloma to be shocked to the core by it, and to become totally preoccupied. One day you will realise that you forgot about it for a few minutes, then these times will become longer and more frequent. Eventually “myeloma” will loose the fear factor and just be incorporated into your mum’s life, and yours. Myeloma is more like a steeplechase than a sprint, and we don’t stay paralysed with grief and fear, you and she will find you cope with it. Some people with myeloma even feel that the diagnosis has helped them appreciate the important things in life and to enjoy the moment. That is certainly true for me whilst in “remission”.