Dear Sally,
Hi – this is Eva. I was a similar age to you when diagnosed. I've also relapsed and it was a shock at first, especially as I had over 70% plasma cells in the bone marrow and my arm broke. It was also more difficult to monitor my disease as I stopped secreting much paraprotein, so I could have a very low reading, and yet be seriously ill.
The good news is that I've responded to treatment. And yes, I can't walk as fast as I used to. Just before I relapsed I was able to jog every day but I couldn't run at full speed. Now I'm on Thalidomide and I can walk but my heart pounds and I'm a bit dizzy. When I'm on dex, I'm quite disabled when I go through the dex withdrawal. I haven't tried Velcade yet. I really have had to re-invent myself – to develop a new identity. It's been very difficult as I was always used to working as a teacher and earning my own income. I've found that now I can be a photographer, an artist, and a cook. I can also read a lot. I've had to really push myself to develop an artistic side but it's been worth it as it can be very engrossing to be working on a new painting. I still grieve for the old me though. The worst time is when you wake up and realise that the person you were in your dreams is no longer there. I think it's really important to do things you couldn't do before as a kind of 'compensation'.
Good luck,
Eva