[ChrisSmithParticipant]

All, I'm new to this forum lark and I'm extremely moved by the postings which are so supportive of one another.

I have put off 'getting involved' in forums because I think I can cope with my husband's Myeloma without help. How wrong am I? I have recently realised that I'm driving myself nuts by 'coping'and am causing my poor dear husband a lot of worry. We have had some very grim days recently and I often feel there is no future.

Reading Sarah's comments ring so true of our situation with my husband's family – my husband's parents think he's a weakling and should get himself sorted out. His two brothers have visited him only once since his diagnosis last September and that was because they wanted something. The tragedy is his family live about 400 yds away from us and are quick to phone if they want something, but still expect my husband to visit them. He can barely walk, is in constant pain and often feels rough.

But we too have the joy of children and funny, happy grandchildren who visit and brighten our days.

Apologies if I've hijacked your feed, Gaye, but reading that which you and the others have written makes me realise what I've been missing in the way of support.

I wish you all well.

[ChrisSmithParticipant]

Hello Kay,

Hot and Spotty has a familiar ring to it and I am pleased that your rash it isn't anything too awful.

My husband has Myeloma and is on his 4th round of CDT. He had no side-affects until about 10 days ago when he came out in this terrific rash on his legs and had a high temperature. The rash quickly covered the whole of his body – he was a right mess. I ended up having to take him to two hospitals and at each there were mutterings of possible meningitis, which really gave me a bit of a fright, and at the first one they were unable to offer the level of help needed and only one doctor in attendance hence the drive to the second one.

He was admitted to hospital and following an overnight stay his condition didn't worsen and he was sent home, but still has the rash. Although we had no definite diagnosis of what the condition is, the doctors now seem pretty relaxed about the whole thing.

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