Hi again, and thanks to Bridget and Eve for great replies.
I am getting some great advice here, I think my biggest lesson is not to panic. When I had my cancer I never panicked, but looking after Mike I tend to, is it this feeling of being a carer, and responsible for someone else, in my case I think it might well be ???
Anyway, he is doing OK, the UTI under control, thrush nearly gone and just got to get him a bit stronger now.
Thanks again to you all, and will keep posting.
Deedee