Dear Ann
Im so sorry John lost his battle to stay with you, cant imagine how awful it must be to fight cancer then succumb to some other retched disease. Life is just so unfair. My heart goes out to you and your family at this sad time.
Min

Hi Vicky,
So sorry you lost your Dad, and I understand how lost your mum must be.
There is an online support group called Merry Widows, and another called Way up. I found the merry widows too depressing personaly. But joined way up after about 4 months. Before then I don't think it would have helped as life is one big blurr of heartache and…[Read more]

Dai

Its just not right you going AWOL and not letting us know your unwell!
You must teach Janet how to use your computer in your absence or get a tablet to take to hospitals. 3g enabled of course.
Seriously though sorry to hear you have been in the war's with all the health problems in your history you would think they would keep you a bed in…[Read more]

Yes Helen I did get on holiday, it was brilliant. Loved every moment. Cried occasionally as we all did but on the whole laughed a lot too.
To date I have now gone the longest time with no intervention except reiki and I got 'wellied ' most nights and some afternoons too, so put my kidneys under a lot of stress! Lost the stress at last.and learnt…[Read more]

Hi Helen,
I wonder if you have considered Reiki?
I have had six kidney infections in the past six months. Each time suffering back ache followed by stomach pain, high temperature, then up all night going to the loo. I was on lots of anti biotics and pretty darn sick of it whilst waiting for a scan. I was going off on holiday to Crete with a…[Read more]

Hi David its called a Dead good job. On Wednesday evenings BBC2 Catch it on I player its weekly series
Min

Oh David you made me laugh. Just the kind of thing I wold do if I was able but woodwork and me dont get on.
But i read recently about ?Renting a coffin?
Yes you read correctly. Its a hire thing and if your plan is for cremation you hire the coffin up to the point where it goes in the furnace!!! Makes perfect sense to me.
Alternativley I like…[Read more]

Hi Sue
I dont know anything about a charge on the way site but there is no charge on the Way up site and there a a number of people under 50 on Way up who dont like the atmosphere on way, as well as the fact way deals a lot with mothers with young children.
I suggest you give way up a try and if you dont like it then you simply withdraw from…[Read more]

I have been fortunate to be invited to meet Gaynor at her home. she cooked Sunday lunch for 17 ******** it was my first meeting of other ?wuppers? I was terrified but determined to get out of the house after languishing in sorrow alone.
Its the best thing I have done since Peter passed away.
The support is amazing and next week I am going on…[Read more]

Hello Julie,
Its perfectly normal as a widow to have these questions and doubts.
Is there more I could have done. More the medical profession should have done.
In my case after peter died, I wanted answers too.
But some of the side effects of suffering a sudden bereavement, like post traumatic stress disorder,
Were so debilitating. I…[Read more]

Hi Gail.
12 months ago. I was in the same dark place you find yourself today. I had shared 40 years with my husband and life had no meaning after his death.
I found a group of people who support widows and widowers. We share our ups and downs. There are lots of downs at first. But the mutual support offered is amazing.
Widows are the only…[Read more]

You gave me something to think of there Gill, I had to dig out the copy of the service and there on the front cover of a beautiful booklet is the title Civil Funeral Celebrant.
So I thought it was humanist but I was wrong.
Should have realized when he allowed the Lords prayer at the end.
I have to tell you in case No one else does. My…[Read more]

Crikey Tom
I never detected an accent in you. Not once did you say ?och? the noo. Ive known you all this time and never known you were Scotish. Im half scot half annoying little ****.
Minx

Dear Gill
There is a kind of Limbo we live in until the funeral, when it all seems so unreal and like a dream or nightmare. This is the time we all knew was going to happen but wished with all our heart we could put off.
I had a humanist funeral for Peter and some friends who are regular church goers commented that it was the best service they…[Read more]

Dearest Gill
I am so so sorry for your loss.
There are no words to help at his moment in time, other than I am thinking of you.
Stephens passing was traumatic for you but in time you will put that part behind you and remember the good times.
Suffice to say he is now out of his suffering and yours begins in a different way.
Strength will…[Read more]

My dear Gill
Stephen is no longer in coñtrol, MM is, how difficult to see him go downhill so fast.
Somewhere inside is the man you love,and he will be equally afraid as you are. You need all your family around you at times like this to remind you to stay in control just a little longer.
Once they have made him comfortable and possibly sedated…[Read more]

Dear Gill.
I am happy your still able to laugh at life.
Might I suggest that you seek a Macmillan nurse now. they really are amazing at the pain game.
They come to the house it is there job to ensure Stephen is pain free. But not so out of it he cant communicate or join in and argument. I found the support amazing and the products they supply…[Read more]

Dear Gill and Stephen.
What can I say to ease the heartache I know you are feeling?
There are no words that will make the journey any easier, or less painful
Niether of you can prepare for what life has in store for you.
But with what ever time you have left to love each other, talk talk and talk somemore.
Dont leave anything unsaid, dont…[Read more]

Hi Dai,
Happy days. I seem to recall that when Peter was admitted as an emergency!! He had similar experiences.
What would they have done if you were incapable of giving them all the meds you were on? Worrying.
Thank goodness you survived the poor quality care. Makes you wonder if you should have stayed at home and called out someone.…[Read more]