Hi Laura sorry you and your mum are having to go through this but joining this forum was the right thing to do , there are lots of lovely people who can support and advise you There are quite a few of us who were diagnosed around the same age as your mum and a growing number of people under 50 as well It does take time to get over the shock when you are first diagnosed and it can be hard to see how your life will be , so feeling down is fairly normal The more your mum finds out the better she will feel , if she felt able to come on here it might help Life does change when you find out you have myeloma but not as much as you first fear Having the stem cell transplant could give your mum several years where she wont need any treatment at all. Are you able to talk to your mums specialist nurse? It may be that a course of anti- depressants might help and the specialist nurses are great and very approachable . Do you have anybody else to help you and your mum? It must be very hard for you too Please keep posting and let us know how you are both doing , you will get lots of replies Best wishes Bridget