Min it is a real hard way for Peter to learn a lesson. I am so sorry that he is having such a bad time. I hope that he stats to feel bette soon. My love and prayers are with you both.
Jean xx
Hey Gill
I enjoyed that. I am in bed with an infection (keeping away from Frank), I was feeling very sorry for myself but that cheered me up.
Jean
Yea Eve mydemons wake me up in the early hours – they are quite busy at that time. Hope Slim isfeeling better.
Bridget how are you? Hope good.
Love Jean xx
Hi Pauline
I tried for years to get Frank to talk to someone but he wouldn't. I know it helped me so I hope you have better luck. Some of my friends on the forum said if he (Frank ) wanted they would talk to him. He nearly had a stroke and said there was nothing to talk about!!! It is hard but I have to respect his decisions. Pauline things got better for me and we are enjoying the good times – long may they continue. So I am sure they will for you. My sister reminds me "when Frank realised his illness was not your fault he got better" – maybe there is something in it – don't know. Chin up you will be supported here and you won't be alone.
Take care love Jean xx
Hi Elizabeth
I read your post before on the little recorder and I got one. Brilliant idea. Thanks for advice.
Take care
Russel good luck for your appointment.
Love Jean x
Dear Pauline
I am sorry that you are having such a bad time. Reading your post brought back some bad memories. This is such an individual and shi**y disease that people handle differently. When my husband was diagnosed in 2006 he got the family together and told us all that he wanted no research done on the illness and he did not want to talk about it. According to Frank any information that he needed he would get it from his consultant. I was different, I wanted to know all that I could. I found this site and get all support and advice I need. I think about maybe 18 months after diagnoses, we went through such a bad patch, it lasted about 9 months and was the worse time of my life. I could do nothing right, everything I said was wrong, Frank would not discuss anything with me, he pushed me away at every opportunity. I used to leave the house in the morning and not come back to the evening. It was so obvious that he did not want be around. I posted on the site and got so much support and advice. Someone recommended a counsellor. There was no way that Frank was going to see a counsellor so I did. For me, it was the best thing and I wish I had dne it sooner. Someone to listen to me and not shout me down or walk away. You are not being heartless Pauline, you cannot change how you feel and neither can your husband.
I still don?t agree with how Frank handles it, (and there are times I want to scream at him) but I have come to accept that this is his illness and he has to cope the way that makes him feel better. I worry myself sick weeks before seeing consultant but Frank just goes with the flow. Frank is like you ? why worry, when there is nothing to worry about. I am sorry for going on Pauline, but I am not as good with words and explaining myself as my cyber friends. I am sure you will get good advice and support here. We take evey day as it comes and he even talks about how he feels!!! Take care.
Love Jean x
I am so sorry to hear of the death of Gaye, a very brave woman and friend to us all. She will be greatly missed. Thank you Ellen for letting us know.
Jean
Hi Min
You and Peter carried out "the great escape" well done! It does conjure up some picture. Great to hear that Peter felt well enough to do it. I have been following your posts and hope that Peter's results are good and that he gets home today. My best wishes to you both.
Love Jean x
Hello Cathy
I am sorry that you are in the position to join our gang. You are very welcome. I am also a carer. My hubby has SMM and not yet in treatment so I don't know much about it but rest assured that these lovely people here are a mine of information. Someone here will be able to help or advise where to go. They will support you – as they have me.
Take care and my best to you both
Love Jean x
Hi Roz
Good to hear from you. Michael's garden is lovely. Did you do the design yourself? I just loved the garden seat – as my grand daughter would say – cool. Enjoy it – you deserve to.
Love Jean x
Dear Gaye
I too have been thinking about you these past few days, so it was great to hear from you. You are a very courageous lady. You have fought this horrible disease with bravery and have given strength to many on the forum. Thank you for all your wisdom, knowledge and empathy that you have given to us all. You will be in my thoughts and prayers and may God bless you and be with you.
All my love and respect
Jean. xx
Hi Ted
My husband Frank was diagnosed sept 2006 and is not on any treatment. When first diagnosed he had Zometa every month for about 6 months. He sees consultant every two months. He has had a few set backs. At moment has severe pain in side. He had something similar before but turned out it was muscular. This time he reckons it's his ribs. Was supposed to see consultant on Thursday but she postponed it to 1 Sept. He also had to have a tooth out on Wednesday and is having problem with bleeding. He's quite happy to plod along as he is. I live in dread of each appointment – I want to keep treatment at bay for as long as possible. I wish you well for many many years to come.
Take care
Love Jean x
Hi Mary
Well done you are very brave. The more money that can be raised for this blo**y disease the better. My pound also winging its way. Don't be petrified when you do it. You will be fine. Where in Ireland. I live in the North. Good luck
Love Jean xx
Oh Sarah I am so very very sorry to hear your sad news. My heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. I have followed Gordon's and your journey through this horrible disease. You both have been inspirations to me and am sure a lot of your friends on the forum. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
My deepest sympathy and prayers
God bless you. Love Jean. xx
Hi Eve and all
What you have all said is so true. This site has been my lifeline for a long time for which I am very grateful. Like David says it also puts your problems into prospective. I hope you are all well and hope Slim and Peter are feeling better.
Love Jean xxT