Dear Gaye
I echoe what everyone else has said. Your posts have been very encouraging to me, anewcomer to all this. Bless you.
Like you say, it is so good that so many of you are beating your "sell by dates"!!! I will never forget how I felt, when diagnosed in hospital, by an almost casual remark, and then looked on the TV web site and it said 2-5 yrs tops! You are all right, many of the sites are so out of date! I hadn't found this site then!
I feel so grateful to those who go before me and your willingness to shar your experiences for our good, and test new regimes. all this, I'm sure will increase our "sell by dates"!! For this Faye, and others, I will be eternally grateful.
Lots of love.
Mavis
Hi Kay
Hope things go well. Let us know we will be routing for you.
Love
Mavis
Hi Jenny
Just caught up with this thread. Sad to welcome you to this site on your Dad's behalf. Glad to hear he is making some progress.
Step parents are a problem. My Mother married again at 75 ys, to a relative of my sister-in-law. When she was in the last week of her life my step father siad she was too ill to speak to me on the phone, even though she had really appreciated my visit the previous week. /when she died I felt he hi-jacked the funeral, even though one of my brothers took the service.
I think it will just be problematic because she is not your mum and as wife she does have these rights. Soemtimes it does seem unfair when we are the ones who have known them all their life.
I'm sure diplomacy, infortunately, is the only way. Isn't there a Social services person who will talk to her. I thought all the push was to treat folk at home now. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy that your Dad is getting all the attention when she, understandly, also feel at her wits end.
All blessings to you all.
Mavis
Hi Scott
Welcome to this site. I'm a relatively newcome too but have found it really helpful.
I'm aleays interested in anyone else, who like me, isn't keen to rush into chemo. I went to Consultant this week. PP level 7. She says I'm aneamic and might need a blood transfusion. Evidently, radiotherepy, which I've just finished, can further deplete blood count and contribute to tiredness. I thought it was so much travelling in very uncomfortable ambulances!!!! I await her phon call. Apart from that, she is happy to let me "wait and see".
How do you take the curicumin (I realise I haven't got the name right, but will losse this if I switch back!)
A general question for anyone: "why would it be better to be in a Trial that to "wait and see"?
All best wishes to you.
Mavis
To all you "oldstagers" and trail blazers, (albeit for these titles you pay a very heavy price!)
I just wanted to say how much I appreciate your courage and also your willingness to share your experiences with those of us who now follow you on this horrible journey.
Your willingness to test new drugs and regimes means so much. I hope and pray that you all benefit from the treatments you are currently undertaking.
Love
Mavis
Hi David
How great to hear such good news from you. Do enjoy your "new" life.
Best wishes.
Mavis
Dear Shirley
So glad that you are home with your family. Do hope your recovery goes very well.
Love.
Mavis
Hi John
From another newcomer, welcome. I do hope that the "wait and see" phase lsts long!
I travelled on an ambulance today with an MM survivor of 11 years so all is not grim.
Best wishes.
Mavis
Dear Lindsey
Although my experiences are not like your Mum's she has my extreme sympathy because I don't think that Drs always do take pain seriously enough.
I think you should ask to see an Orthopeadic Specialist, or a Pain Specialist as morphine probably isn't the answer, or if it is, maybe she need patches. Is your Mum on steroids as part of the Trial? I found that these were like a miracle cure for all my pain – MM and Arthritic. Unfortunately, now I have completed the course, my aches and pains are returning.
As far as geting "straightened up" goes, I am finding the work I am doing with the Community Physio very helpful. Does your Mum get this support?
All blessings to you at this difficult time.
Mavis
Dear Gavin
I was interested to hear how your diagnosis was reached. It's not boring, because that is the benefit of this site that we can learn by comparing other's experiences.
Hopefully, like me your mobility will gradually improve and I know, from previous nerve damage to my foot following hip surgery, that eventually it does begin to improve, but it is very slow.
I do hope you have a good meeting with your Consultant on Tuesday. Do let us know.
I wish we had a support group nearer than Leeds because I think I would find it helpful to belong to one.
Best wishes.
Mavis
Best wishes
Mavis
Dear Shirley
Happy Near Year! So glad to hear things are going well with you. You are very brave.
Your post has answered a question I have been wondering about which is 'does every new regime of chemo lead to hair loss.
Keep cheerful and look forward to that long remission.
Love
Mavis
Dear Gavin
I'm surprised that i didn't pick up on your posting before as I have been asking very simnilar questions to you.
I was diagnosed in Oct 10 at age 65yrs. I had an op to remove a plasmatoma to my spine. There are traces of MM i(now at 10 I believe) in my bone marrow, but like you everything else was fine. MY first meetings with the Consultants were very unsatisactory and it was a case of are they or aren't they going to recommend chemo. There were some suspected lesions in my bones.
After my op I felt better than I had for years, because all the pain in my back, which both I and my GP had put down to worsening arthritis, had made life unbearable. Because of this I was in no hurry to have chemo, although I knew I had to have radiotherepy, which I am in the middle of now.
Fortunately, when I finally met up with the Oncologist, at the local hospital, who will be looking after me long-term, she could quite understand my quality of life over quantity of life questions. She said I was at the beginning of my MM journey and, following a blood test she did (the paraprotein 10 reading) she says she isn't advising any more treatment at present. She is seeing me again at the end of the month.
Sorry for the long posting! I can't remember if you said how you came to be diagnosed.
I have joint the American MM site and with everything I have read there I would certainly not bbe in a hurry to have a tramsplant, although i wouldn't want to say "never". It seems many Oncologists are questioniing whether transplants are still neccessarily the gold standard for treatment.
My very best wishes to you as you tread this road. I shall read of your progress with interest.
Mavis
Dear Shirley
You are on your way to full remission. Hold onto that thought.
Do hope you are able to experience some of the peace and joy of Christmas tomorrow, in that great "hotel"!!
Go well you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love
Mavis x
Dear Roz
Your post hadn't appeared before I wrote my last response. So sorry for that but, truthfully, I am relieved for you. You had obviously pushed yourself beyond what was sustainable.
You have been a good and faithful wife and done whatever you could for Michael, at great cost to your own health. these poast few months muct have been horrendous. I am glad that Michael is now free from all pain and at peace. The love you have shared with each other will last for all eternity.
I will continue to pray for you and the family.
Love
Mavis xxx
Dear Roz
May I add my thoughts and prayers to everyone elses. Do not beat yourself up. This ia a terrible time that you are going through. Let others' care for you give you the strength you haven't got in yourself. You have given so much that you are runing at under "empty".
My prayer for Michael is that he may soon peacefully pass from this painful life and that he may soon to that place where there is no more pain, no more tears.
The love you and Michael have had for each other will last through all eternity.
My prayer for you is that you may first of all get some relief from your own physical pain, so that you can face all the emotional challenges that are assalting you.
May you know, in some miraculous way, some of the peace of Christmas, for yourself and for Michael.
All love.
Mavis x