PaulineBoughton

  • pauline replied to the topic One Year in the forum Carers 10 years, 6 months ago

    Thanks Eve, I might take you up on that! I think our outlook on life is the same. I believe you should make the most of today and enjoy every minute of it. We dont have a lot of money but we have each other which is far better than anything else. I try to turn every negative into a positive (not always easy!) but it works for me. MM took over our…[Read more]

  • pauline replied to the topic One Year in the forum Carers 10 years, 6 months ago

    Hi Eve..

    What a lovely post indeed. It is amazing how we all keep smiling and put on a brave face. Do we all do that? Do we all say "well there is always someone else worse off"? I know I do. Grah (hubby) is now 2 yrs post transplant (well he will be next month). Oh boy what a journey it has been but it has made us even closer and it has made…[Read more]

  • Hi Chelle

    Hopefully it is just a blip. I know my hubby's bloods are rarely what we expect them. There was one occasion when he was told he needed a platelet and blood transfusion only to be told a few hours later that he didn't!

    Often consultants only tell you how much they think you need to hear so my advice would be to ask what options…[Read more]

  • pauline replied to the topic Struggling to Cope in the forum Carers 10 years, 9 months ago

    Hi Chelle

    It amazes me with all you have on your plate that you found time to reply to my post… thank you. I do hope your hubby's treatment is soon back on track and that they can get him back into remission. I think you are right… do we ever know how to act.. probably not. I have shared my thoughts with hubby today but he is just getting…[Read more]

  • pauline replied to the topic Struggling to Cope in the forum Carers 10 years, 9 months ago

    Thanks Dai. That makes complete sense. I did let him know that it is the only way I can deal with it and think he understood. Reading Eve's last post makes me realise how lucky we are… I do hope the treatment works Eve and I am sure everyone on here is rooting for your hubby.

    Everybody has been so kind. You are truly wonderful people and I…[Read more]

  • pauline replied to the topic Struggling to Cope in the forum Carers 10 years, 9 months ago

    Thanks all for your advice which is most welcome. Insomnia also plays a big part which is probably why it is sometimes difficult to keep things in perspective! I will take all your advice on board. Hubby is now saying everything is fine and we should now forget what happened on Monday…. mm typical eh! This really is a roller coaster illness but…[Read more]

  • pauline replied to the topic Struggling to Cope in the forum Carers 10 years, 9 months ago

    Thanks again Jean. It is nice to know there are people out there who understand.

    Pauline

  • pauline replied to the topic Struggling to Cope in the forum Carers 10 years, 9 months ago

    Thank you both for your replies. I feel very alone this week so it nice to know that actually I am not.

    You both make very valid points and I have tried as tactfully as I can to suggest that my hubby phones the helpline number to discuss his feelings with someone who is outside of the situation and can offer the best advice. I am hoping he…[Read more]

  • pauline started the topic Struggling to Cope. in the forum Carers 10 years, 9 months ago

    Hi

    Having looked at this site since my hubby was diagnosed with multiple myeloma in 2009, I have struggled through and thought I was doing a pretty good job as carer and keeping everyones spirits up… keep the tears til I was alone. Hubby had a successful stem cell transplant in Dec 2009 and touch wood we have been going along quite nicely…[Read more]