Oh Sarah
Dont these people just know how much distress they are causing. I would be asking them why they accepted the cheques that have already cleared over the years.
Cant imagine how your going to get out of this but i imagine its going to need a solicitor and more unnecessary expense.
When i used to work, I could have belonged to a union…[Read more]

AMARYLLIS a lovely house plant for the spring to look forward to
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Dear Tom
The lantern is a lovely idea[b] but big bu[/b]t make sure it does not have a metal ring on it as they are lethal to animals in the countryside.
It was an item on Countryfile on the BBC that cows for instance have died as a result of the metal frame on lanterns.
There are some available with fine wood of some kind that are far kinder…[Read more]

Hi Keith I am sorry your feeling so wretched with your cough.
When I was very much younger and up to a few years go I used to get very bad bronchitis ( my dad was a heavy smoker as indeed I was prior to peter getting ill)
The coughing was a nightmare and it went on for weeks and weeks particularly when I was warm or well wrapped up.
Someone…[Read more]

AH DAVID AND DAI
Fear not, its old age.
I have not had a single drug of the type you two must of had, I have not had any of the proceedures you have had to endure.(Thank God)
But I do have a terrible memory of late ( But I can remember I will be an official old age pensioner next month)
I used to call all of my moment of forgetfulness senior…[Read more]

Dear Roz
I would urge you to take that invite up, and dont put it off for another day , it just gets harder, dont worry if you end up in tears, it is absolutely allowed.
Furthermore its a wonderful escape valve, I cry and laugh and scream and shout and cry some more and then tell Peter off for getting me in this state.
Who else can I blame?…[Read more]

Hi Eve,
Its true I don't want to but I never refuse an invitation. I know all too well how I could turn inwards and never speak to another soul but feeling sorry for myself is not going to move me forward.
I know I am in pain?. both mentally and physically but feeling sorry for myself will not make it better. Although I think I am allowed, the…[Read more]

Dear Jean.
The important thing here is Frank has recognised that things are not right and has rung the hospital.
Those two things are the correct things to do and he knows it. What he does not know is how his not telling you is affecting you? or perhaps he knows you better than you think and knows you will worry worry worry. and rightly so.…[Read more]

Dear Roz,
mushrooms does not have an E in it Im afraid. But I do understand ?.. my head is similar to that of a pregnant woman if its at all possible to make that analagy..
I am learning that grief is painful experience, not just psychological, but genuinly painful and the memory plays non stop tricks but its recognised as being real. So??..…[Read more]

Ball in a Jar

One day I saw a notice for a talk on helping people through bereavement by Barbara Monroe, the Chief Executive of St Christopher's Hospice in London. When I arrived, what I saw resembled a physics lesson. On the table before her was a very large glass jar. Beside were three balls: one large, one medium-sized, one small. Without a…[Read more]

Hi Gary and welcome to our very exclusive club.
i can identify with all you are feeling and how your sister is responding.
Its just a thought but?. I can remember the time my husband was on Thalidomide and all the other drugs to go with it.
If you sister has previously been a well person the quantity of drugs can be overwhelming, and if in…[Read more]

Hi,
I know exactly where you are. I cried while I put up the tree and looked to the cards for a long time, not wanting to sign just my name:-(
My grandchildren are a long way away and they will never see my tree! so dont know why I bothered. I just wanted to prove to myself that i could do it.
But I feel right now I am going backwards not…[Read more]

Hi Eve
Please make sure you get a referral for that tooth out for slim. Regular dentists are not up to the job in as much as you need to go to a dental hospital or similar as Peter had the same problem and there is a very high risk of osteocronosis following tooth extractions when on all of the meds slim is on especialy the bone stuff?. Forgot…[Read more]

Hi Susanah and Michael.
OMG you must have both been devastated at this news, but perhaps by now you have had time to digest it and got over the shock and realised that this is not the end.
If Michael is up to it you must enquire about whatever else is available. On the plus side the fact that the numbers have not gone up. Is a good thing…[Read more]

Hi Eve
Briliant news and especialy at this time of year. At Tom would say Onwards and Upwards. sounds like the finish line is in sight and do hope all your and Slims dreams come true for Christmas.
Im off out for dinner with son before he leaves again so time for a few tipples it would be rude not to especial when Im not driving!
Love Min

Hi Sarah
it sounds like you timed out!!! go into your post and edit it and add what you lost then you can take your time How are you? Im feeling down today, peters birthday tommorow so sad.
Love Min

Hi Jenny,
I know where you are coming from, having been where you are in the past.
My husband was being treated by a so called kidney specialist who saw him every week took blood tests every week and and some point, when He told he her he had a dreadful pain in his back that co-incided with with a very elevated calcium reading in his blood test,…[Read more]

Hi Bridget,
A very dear friend and colleague of mine was dying of breast cancer and secondary brain tumour and she told me a few months before she died that she worried about how her husband was going to cope with organising her funeral.
I suggested that she should take the worry away by arranging it herself and she thought it was such a good…[Read more]

Hi David
Im pleased the service went well. That final goodbye is such a whirlwind I cannot remember much of Peters funeral but I do have a full copy of the humanist service we had.
In my case I chose a humanist who purely by co-incidence happened to be an ex chief Inspector in my police force.
He spent almost 4 hours with us asking a million…[Read more]