Lovely memories but quite a few sniffles

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    Gill
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    I don't know if I mentioned that I sorted through Stephen's cameras and came across a memory stick in one that had not seen the light of day. You can imagine my joy and tears to discover this I think they are the last pictures taken of Stephen before he died. His hair has grown back pointing the opposite way from before chemo and he was obviously working in the garden (hole in T shirt proves it

    I just hope I can attach it to this message

    Gill

    #108203

    susannah
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    Oh Gill what a lovely photo, at least nothing can take those away from us

    Love
    Suex

    #108204

    tom
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    Hi Gill now what a great find, Lovely Photo, I bet its now in pride of place (hole or no hole)

    Love Tom xxx

    #108205

    jmsmyth
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    Gill that is a really lovely photo 🙂 . I'm sure it brought back wonderful memories.

    Love Jean xx

    #108206

    andyg
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    Hi Gill.
    What a fantastic photograph.
    I'm sure it will provide you with plenty of smiles and quite a few tears in future but what a marvellous keepsake it will be.

    Love Andy xxx

    #108207

    Gill
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    I had the photo printed off at a camera shop. They printed off a 5 x 7 and framed it. It is "very Stephen" kind eyes, dog lover, calm personality and "sticky out ears" . He was never vain but I know he would have said "I am sure my ears are getting bigger. Trust you to get the sun shining through them to make them look even worse :)"

    Gill xx

    #108208

    bandityoga
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    Gill

    What a lovely photograph and Stephen looks so well. Look back on the happy times. Stephen would want you to enjoy life.

    Sending love

    Maureen x

    #108209

    san
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    Hi Gill,a lovely photo indeed, a treasured moment, take care San x

    #108210

    Tina
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    Gill,

    What a great find. Michael comes across as a very kind man.

    Take care

    Tina X

    #108211

    mhnevill
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    Hi Gill

    Yes, what a lovely picture. Stephen obviously had a lovely friend in his dog!

    I was mentioning about talking to a photo, in an earlier post, this would be a lovely picture to "talk" to.

    Take care and continue to be kind to yourself.

    Love Mavis x

    #108212

    Gill
    Participant

    Hi Everybody

    Just to share some other memories I found in that camera. On a couple of the other photos on the memory stick more of the garden is showing behind Stephen.

    For 5 years after moving in here we concentrated on making the house "habitable" Ok we had running water, a smelly working loo, and windows, although we couldn't see out of the kitchen window for the caked on grease. (I pressed so hard on the stanley blade to get the grease off, that the back of the blade sliced my thumb open)

    The stairs stunk of animal urine, and out the back there was a hundred foot piece of ground covered in waist high weeds, an old, dumped, rusting car and numerous amounts of half buried rubbish (including a bedstead!)

    Daughter, Donna, who must have been about 12 or 13 at the time wailed that she wanted to go home and Stephen promised that he would make it look nice. Her brother, who is 9 years younger couldn't give a hoot. It was odd to think that a couple and 3 young children had lived in this place for @ 5 years before we moved in.

    Around 1987 the house was a great deal better. It is an ordinary, 3 bed, double fronted semi in the London borough of Bromley Kent, but by giving it some TLC, knocking down a great deal of the back wall in the kitchen (boy thick polythene does [u]not[/u] keep out the draughts) and building a large, light, airy extension/conservatory off the kitchen. Insulating all the outside walls, connecting central heating and installing a modern combi boiler (no he didn't do all of that he did the grunt work for his sub contracted electrician and plumber but the building stuff was all his own work.)

    Strange to think that Stephen lifted that great big metal beam thingy in the kitchen with just one other guy when he knocked down so much of the back kitchen wall. Is it a JCB? JSB?

    In about 1987. Stephen and I started thinking about the garden. All we had done to the garden was strim it down regularly. Red thumbs were more us than green fingers, but Stephen could build! I found a pull out article in one of the Sundays by Susan Hampshire and Roddy Llewelyn (sp?)

    It showed a pattern for a "low maintenance garden" smaller than ours but adaptable. We plotted out our own version on graph paper and got started. We divided the garden in half. The half nearest the house was mainly paved with an 8 foot wide, formal raised fish pond. We planted shrubs in each "corner" of that half.

    I dread to think what we spent on fish for that pond. Golden Orfe – died. Shubumkins – died. Skeleton somethings Orfe maybe – died – bottom feeding pond Tench to clean up wasted fish food – died. Lots of other things that were supposed to thrive. Not for us. We had the pump. we had the right plants, the right (very expensive) pond liner. Even an ornamental fountain, everything except fish. We gave up and bought goldfish. Boy oh Boy have they grown to a size. Yes they die eventually but I could not even start to work out how old some of them are.

    The kids used to dangle their feet in the pond and let the fish nibble them YUCK!. Unfortunately a Heron started visiting us for his breakfast so Stephen put a galvanised steel mesh cover over the whole thing with a hinged pull up flap to get to the pond itself.

    After that he started on the front garden. It is only about a car and a half long. He paved quite a bit of it to park a car, laid some turf, built a front wall and put in black iron gates. He built a not wide but long garage/utility room on the side of the house. Never used for cars but shelved out with cases and cases of tools, a cement mixer etc. etc. Kitchen sink and drainer, a stretch of kitchen worktop with cupboards and drawers under. That man could build! He plumbed in the washing machine and parked the dryer freezer, etc. in there all connected to a separate fuse box (electrician did that).

    All of this is probably very boring, but such lovely memories for me and lots of smiles. I suppose that the sniffle comes when I look at some of the other pictures.

    In the back half of the garden Stephen put in a hidden wild life pond, a shed hidden by trellis, decking on which there is a hand built picnic bench with attached benches either side, a concrete trough with a dribble spout attached to a concrete mask that goes into a flower trough, a pebble fountain constructed with mill stones and ornamental pebbles and Stephen's orchard. Be impressed [b]NOT[/b] 4 dwarf fruit trees yielded 2 peaches (one had maggots) a couple of plumbs (they were nice)and 2 tiny sour apples I think there was a cherry tree. That never gave anything.

    The few times there was a piece of fruit we would cut it in half, share it and savour it!!

    In these photos he is happily working in the garden, not doing what he could before but doing a bit. The big sniffle is that in some of my photos in the background you can see the blossom on the trees in his "orchard". Down here we see that blossom in late May/early June.

    How could he possibly be dead by the 11th of September.

    Love from Gill xx

    #108213

    tom
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    Hi Gill

    My its a hard time for any of us to wonder how and why any one could pass away when we are not ready for them to go, but unfortunately we can make that decision.

    Its good that you have the photo's to look back onto albeit it makes you sad.

    Think of the Good time Gill

    Love and Hugs Tom xxx

    #108214

    Gill
    Participant

    Thanks Tom

    Yes to be dead 2 months after the photos were taken is unbelievable. But my garden is still amazing and a tribute to Stephen's skill, ability and vision. I am lucky to have so many reminders of what he achieved. House transformed, garden pretty damn good, 2 naughty little Westies (the jury is still out on that:-) love them really and have no idea what I would do without them.

    But the greatest thing he left me was a whole life of wonderful memories.

    Take care

    Love from Gill

    #108215

    tom
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    Hi Gill

    Yes Gill it must be unbelievable to grasp, but as you say you have great and wonderful memories you had planning the transformation not only the house but the garden also.

    You have them forever, enjoy them.

    Love and Hugs

    Tom.
    Ps you stopped using face book? x

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