[ArthurParticipant]

Hello people, my name is Joe and 18 years old. My dad has had myeloma for 3 years now and is still fighting hard. It's been such a rollercoaster ride with my uncle dying last year as well.
My mum went to the doctors a few week ago for some tests because they thought she had cancer as well. The tests came back negative. I'm going this week (my parents dont know) to also have some tests. I need advice from people with children. Should I tell my mum and dad? Or should I wait and see what the results say? Please help, any advice would be helpful!
Thankyou
Joe

[ArthurParticipant]

Sorry for being a bit off topic guys, I just really need help!

[jmsmythParticipant]

Joe I am so sorry to hear of the situation you find yourself in. I can understand
how you feel about worrying your parents especially your dad. I can only give you
my feelings on it as a mum of four sons. I would be very hurt if one of my boys was
going through what you are on their own. Maybe you can tell your mum and let her
decide if your dad should know. Your mum is there to love and support you. Maybe
others on forum have different opinions. I hope all goes well for you

Love Jean xx

[gina45Participant]

Hi Arthur, im sorry you are going through so much.
It is my mum that has myeloma and it can be very hard.
I would think if it was my mum she would be very upset if she didnt know.
Its different for everyone but i think your parents would want to know. Hope you are ok
Gina x

[brochoParticipant]

Hi Joe I am so sorry you are having to deal with all this but thank goodness your mums tests were negative As for your own tests I agree with Jean and Gina , tell your mum and dad they probably sense something is wrong anyway. Dont bear the worry all on your own share it with them , they will wnt to be there for you just as you have been for them Good luck Joe please let us know how you get on love Bridget

[jmsmythParticipant]

Joe let us know how you get on.
Jean

[gina45Participant]

Sorry Joe, dont know where i got Arthur from. Hope you are ok.

[ArthurParticipant]

Thankyou for people replying! It's very much appreciated! Going to doctors in an hour so I'll let you know how it goes.

[gina45Participant]

Any news Joe, hope everything is ok.
Gina x

[ArthurParticipant]

Hi Gina, he said it's most probably just a build up of fluid (hydrocele) but just to be sure I'll be having an x-ray next week because you can't be too sure, eh?
I've told my parents and they said they're very proud of me for going, but they wish I'd have told them sooner

[michelleakitt29Participant]

Hi Joe
You are going through a really rough time at the moment, but you have come to the right place for support. I have 2 children one is 18 in August and the other will be 14 in June. To be honest with you i would be devastated if my boys didnt come to me when they had a problem. I see that you have already been to the doctors, have you managed to talk to Your Parents yet? I am pleased that it seems to be a minor problem, but you still need their support. As a parent it doesn't matter what we are going through my children are the most important thing and i would be there for them.
with love michelle x

[gina45Participant]

Thats good then,im sure it will be what they say and they will treat you. Its brilliant that you have told your parents that is just what my mum would say to me. Im glad you have told them. Let us know when you get your results from your x ray.
Gina x

[shirleyParticipant]

Hi Arthur,i'm not a mum myself but i am a stepmum to a 16yr old and a 14yr old,and i know that if i was a mum,i would be totally devasted that they couldn't talk to me or their dad,but at the same time i can understand your dilemma,sounds to me you have a great relationship with your parents and do understand you don't want to burden them with more worry. This is a great site to be on and we'll always here to offer help and advice,so feel free to ask anything. But in answer to your question,well i would tell them,i think they would be more hurt if they found out you were doing this alone,be strong,and let us all know how you get on,take care Shirls x x

[shirleyParticipant]

Hi its me again,i didn't read further done the page,well done you,bet your glad mum & dad know now,just remember your never alone ok take care Shirls x

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