Hi Gill
I am in NZ,one daughter in Turk and Caicos island,Ruth lost Matty is this Christmas is hard for all are family but we might not be allot get her,but Matty is never far away,so no matter were you spend Christmas,there will always be that feeling of absence .
Gill you have your grandchildren to keep you going,so promise yourself,you will never ever spend another Christmas like this,even if you just go on holiday,.
We all have to cope the best way we can,and I believe you are a strong person,get over this Christmas and make yourself some promises.love Eve