Roz replied to the topic Michael is dying in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi
I'm not imagining it, I have been told it by Andrea, but I've told them they cannot tell Michael without me being there. Everything gets sorted Monday then everyone can know cos Michael knows.
Roz
Roz started the topic Michael is dying. in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi all
For some reason I've got to write this. I don't know why I just do.
I know how bad he is everytime I see him. I also know when another consultant needs to talk to me as well as Michaels, that he hasn't got long. I've discussed it with Andrea and because our daughter wants to be there when we talk, we are talking Monday morn at 10am.…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic Dad has deteriorated quickly since chemo stopped!! What can it be??? in the forum Treatment 14 years, 5 months ago
I'm so sorry about your dad. If he has a uti water infection this can cause these problems. You must get him to drink. His kidneys will pack in if you don't.
All the best
Roz
Roz replied to the topic Another day arranged in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thank you Sue
Due to the situation at hospital, we are not talking to consultant till Monday am. Michael won't know till then not officially anyway, even if he knows deep inside. I've sent the message to our daughter, so we can discuss it together. I hope you don't mind!
I just want to spend the rest of his life with him. So he knows I care.…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic Another day arranged in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi All
Tomorrow is canceled meeting will be next week when our daughter can come with me. Found out alot tonight. Just need everything finalised by his consultant next week. Hope he survives till then
Revlimid has stopped working like all the others did. He will be coming home to say his goodbyes soon. All carers have to be in a plan first.…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic Another day arranged in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi
Tomorrow is canceled meeting next week when our daughter can come with me. Found out alot tonight. Just need everything finalised by his consultant next week.
Revlimid has stopped working like all the others did. He will be coming home to say his goodbyes soon. All carers have to be in a plan first. Think I knew Saturday and thats what…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic BAH HUMBUG!!!! in the forum Off topic 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi Bridget
When you manage to prospone xmas let me know cos I don't want it either.
Sorry about your washer and your cold, please watch yourself. Just moan like all men do.
Roz
Roz replied to the topic Do you forget? in the forum Carers 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi Min
Of course you get angry. We all get angry with our partners. When Michael was at home we still got angry with each other, one of my carers said stop shouting at him do you not realise he is ill with cancer. Yes was my answer but all through our marrage we have done this so why should this stop now??
I've been told now he manipulates me…[Read more]
Roz started the topic Another day arranged. in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi All
Just wanted to say a big thank you to you all, for trying to keep me sane. I'm loosing it alot now, but know I've got another day booked for all questions and answers; if nothing goes wrong that is.
Trying to write things down to ask for Tuesday is very hard. My mind is in a whirl to know only a few days ago he was on the borderline…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic D Day today in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thanks Tom
Michael lost weight then too but now there is nothing on him at all. Its no wonder he screams when he gets washed and stuff. His ribs stick out and where his stomach was just sinks, he's not just flat it sinks inwards.
When they have done this septic screening it will mean more different antibiotics, I suppose and a longer stay in…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic D Day today in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thanks
Been again this afternoon. They are going to do a septic screening on him yet again, so once again something is not hitting the spot.
He's lost more weight, his arm is bigger than his body.
I broke down tonight, so do not know how long I can go on.
Thanks for the encouragement
Roz
Roz replied to the topic D Day today in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thanks All
Still in agony. Rested most of yesterday, doing the same this morn, then afternoon at the mad house.
I found out from Andrea his nurse, that the nurses just think Michael is a bit odd, and always like it. I cannot believe they cannot remember the proper Michael and he is not this confused man who is in their ward. It stinks, how…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic D Day today in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Guess What
It never happened!!!! Istayed all day and his consultant was at a meeting all day.
Cr– day, really really had enough. Done in, legs massive. Never got to loo till driver came at 4pm.
Isn't life sweet. I've left a message wiyh Andrea his nurse ( She was good today) I've said on message I can not do this any more even if…[Read more]
Roz started the topic D Day today. in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi All
Thought I'd let you all know, I'm up waiting for D day.
My carer comes at 7.30am,driver at 8.45am. I'll get to hospital around 10am. Then the waiting comes.
I've not got a clue what to say. I don't even know how we will get through to Michael. See how he responds I suppose. I just don't know what other treatment there is other than…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic Champagne but no Celebration in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
I'm so sorry Gill
I know what this feels like. So remember what you all say to me.
Take one day at a time, keep smiling (Thats hard I know) AND NEVER EVER GiVE IN.
I wish you both all the best and hope and pray that things come around for you once more.
Love Roz
Roz replied to the topic Michael's nurse phoned last night in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thanks Mavis,
Went to see him again yesterday. He's starting to get me confused now! He tells me he's fit enough to come home, and his nurse tells me different.
Tomorrow is D day. So after frank discussion with his consultant and nurse we should know how things stand. I say we but its really I.
All the best
Roz
Roz replied to the topic How do you cope alone. Advice Loosing it in the forum Carers 14 years, 5 months ago
Thanks Lynn
Think Michael has nearly tried the lot and nothing seems to work
roz
Roz replied to the topic Michael's nurse phoned last night in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thanks Sue,Tom
Please don't take this the wrong way, and I'm truely sorry if I upset you but how long did Gary survive after going like this? Please don't answer if its too painfull I understand I just seem to want to know all the time! I keep saying to them how long? But noone can say.
Michael phoned me twice yesterday, once in the…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic Michael's nurse phoned last night in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Thank you All
I keep raising a cup of Tea, so maybe I should change to coffee!!
Spoke to his nurse today and it's going to be hard making him understand how things are with him. We are to just keep repeating till he hopefully gets the gist. He got another infection over the weekend so lets keep our fingers crossed that they keep his myeloma…[Read more]
Roz replied to the topic Michael's nurse phoned last night in the forum General 14 years, 5 months ago
Hi All
Went to see Michael today. He is still in and out of confusion.So the visit wasn't what I was expecting. I'd spoke to him earlier in the day and he was looking forward to seeing me, but things never went that way.
The doctor told me he has delirium because of his chronic infections.
Nothing more to add really.
I'm feeling down…[Read more]