I’d recommend trying to establish a good dialogue with your consultant and specialist nurse. Read up on things – look at the NICE pathway for Myeloma and know what treatments are available and when. Some doctors are brilliant and you can talk to them, ask questions and understand things and ultimately get encouragement. Others do not like it and refer to you in the staff mess as “Dr. Google” – don’t despair, just look elsewhere.
The specialist nurse is your go-to. A good nurse can be an absolute angel when things are difficult. We had brilliant nurses at the Royal Derby Hospital (yes, you, Chris, Sue and Lizzie!). Others unfortunately are like carry on matron – you feel like you are bothering them and you can almost hear the echo as they slam the phone down.
Myeloma is hugely varied, so do not get hung up on things like prognosis – they are historical figures and things have moved on so much. We had a specialist nurse (at another hospital) once say “5 to 8 years” which had Sheila panicking saying “I only have three years left”….. do not start counting the days.