Dear Sue,
I am so sorry for your loss, I know it's not easy to hear some things right now, but Michael is out of pain, and you have to look after yourself now.
I understand what you mean by all the attention going away after the funeral and leaving you alone, I lost my ex husband nearly 13 years ago ( not myeloma related) and I have since remarried. Someone told me once that 'people watch you cope and then they let you cope' and believe me it is very true, but you will come through Sue as you are a very strong person. Always have a reason to get out of bed in a morning ! it worked for me. Take care, you and your family are in my thoughts.
Love Sue xx