Hi Vicki, I have already tried to reply to your message but I lost the post somewhere in the ether. Apart from sport which Stephen loved and I loathe, it seems that you and Colin lived the same life as us. We would spend whole Saturday afternoons trying out different recipes with very few disasters. Once Stephen had to stop working we went out to…[Read more]

Hi Gill,

I too do not look at the site very much these days. My darling husband died in May 2011 and I remenber every last detail of his last few days alive just as if it was last week. Pat is definately looking over my shoulder I can hear him telling me off only too often?
I always wondered what you were giggling about in your photograph, now I…[Read more]

p.s picture was taken on holiday. Stephen’s face was so calm but I was giggling because he was pinching my bum!!

Hi,

My late husband Pat did very well on Bendamustine in 2010 for over a year with very little side effects. Unfortunately he was a long way down the treatment road before he started it, who knows, it could have worked for longer if he had started earlier.

Good Luck

Tina

I am so sorry that your husband has gone. I would love to tell you that it gets better, but you do learn to deal with it. My children were much older than yours. They may be very angry with Dad and feel very guilty for feeling that way.

I am no expert or councillor but I wonder if it would help to let them know that is OK to be angry with Dad. He…[Read more]

Hi Tina

You hold on to that tea towel forever. I cannot use a “steel” to sharpen knives but I would never part with it. I miss Stephen so, so much and do not think that will ever change, but I have learned to carry on. I also realise that family and friends have no idea how much I am still grieving, but that’s OK. It’s how it should be.

Love…[Read more]

Hi Gill,
I have a kitchen thing going on too. My dear husband Pat died in May 2011, seems like yesterday. Pat and I had been together for 35 yrs and had moved house a number of times, I guess many people move items with them that they should really throw away. Well we had a really old tea towel that Pat had when I first met him when he was living…[Read more]

Hi Gill,
I have a kitchen thing going on too. My dear husband Pat died in May 2011, seems like yesterday. Pat and I had been together for 35 yrs and had moved house a number of times, I guess many people move items with them that they should really throw away. Well we had a really old tea towel that Pat had when I first met him when he was living…[Read more]

Dear Rosie
I am so sorry to read that Chris has gone. I don’t come on here very often now. My darling husband, best friend and soul mate died in September 2012 aged 57. There is not one day that I don’t miss him. I have passed the stage of disbelief, in the early days I would wake up and, half asleep, look to my right and try to work out where he…[Read more]

Dear Rosie
I am so sorry to read that Chris has gone. I don’t come on here very often now. My darling husband, best friend and soul mate died in September 2012 aged 57. There is not one day that I don’t miss him. I have passed the stage of disbelief, in the early days I would wake up and, half asleep, look to my right and try to work out where he…[Read more]

Hi Rosie,

I too don’t visit the site too often now since my dear husband passed away in May 2011.

So sorry to hear your news. I hope you get the support you need from family and friends.

Take Care

Tina XX

My husband was on a really high dose of dex. It turned him from a laid back pussy cat who rarely got angry to a a bad tempered, argumentive monster. We called this dexatude. I hope you are on a low dose and it is not affecting you too badly

Gill

I am sorry that your Dad has died. I am sure your post will make people more hopefull. He actually lived on for 19 years after diagnosis. Let’s hope for a breakthrough soon. My husband died 4years after diagnosis aged 57

Gill

I hope Slim’s funeral went really well, and was a real celebration of his life. Gil xx

Dear Eve,
I am sure you had many funny stories to tell and listen to today as you were celebrating Slim’s life. As you leave one “club” you are joining me and other cyber friends in another.
Best wishes to you in your new life.

Tina xx