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BADGER 13 years, 8 months ago.
I LIKE TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU
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I would never trade my amazing friends, my wonderful life, my
loving family for less grey hair or a flatter belly. As I've aged, I've
become kinder to myself, and less critical of myself. I've become my own
friend. I don't chide myself for eating that extra cookie, or for not
making my bed, or for buying that silly cement gecko that I didn't need,
but looks so avante garde on my patio. I am entitled to a treat, to be
messy, to be extravagant.
I have seen too many dear friends leave this world too soon;
before they understood the great freedom that comes with aging.
Whose business is it if I choose to read or play on the computer
until 4 AM and sleep until noon? I will dance with myself to those
wonderful tunes of the 60 &70's, and if I, at the same time, wish to weep
over a lost love … I will.
I will walk the beach in a swim suit that is stretched over a
bulging body, and will dive into the waves with abandon if I choose to,
despite the pitying glances from the jet set. They, too, will get old.
I know I am sometimes forgetful. But there again, some of life is
just as well forgotten. And I eventually remember the important things.
Sure, over the years my heart has been broken. How can your heart
not break when you lose a loved one, or when a child suffers, or even when
somebody's beloved pet gets hit by a car? But broken hearts are what give
us strength and understanding and compassion. A heart never broken is
pristine and sterile and will never know the joy of being imperfect.
I am so blessed to have lived long enough to have my hair turning
grey, and to have my youthful laughs be forever etched into deep grooves on
my face.
So many have never laughed, and so many have died before their hair
could turn silver.
As you get older, it is easier to be positive. You care less about
what other people think.. I don't question myself anymore. I've even
earned the right to be wrong.
So, to answer your question, I like being old. It has set me free.
I like the person I have become. I am not going to live forever, but
while I am still here, I will not waste time lamenting what could have
been, or worrying about what will be. And I shall eat dessert every
single day (if I feel like it).
MAY OUR FRIENDSHIP NEVER COME APART, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT'S STRAIGHT
FROM THE HEART!
Good grief Roz, what a wonderful gift you have!. Such gorgeous sentiments and a terrific way with expressing feelings. I am lost for adequate words that should thank you for a wonderful posting.
Love and admiration,
John
Thanks John
I've always been a big softee
Roz
Hi Roz,
When I saw this poem I thought of you (in the nicest possible way), and I think that you will see the humour and honesty in it, that I believe you always portray in your posts.
WHEN I AM AN OLD WOMEN
When I am an old woman I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn?t go, and doesn?t
Suit me
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and
Summer gloves
And satin sandals, and say we?ve no money
For butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement
When I?m tired
And gobble up samples in shops and press
Alarm bells
And run my stick along the public railings
And make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
And pick the flowers in other peoples gardens
And learn to spit.
You can wear terrible skirts and grow fat
And eat pounds of sausages at a go
Or only bread and pickle for a week
And hoard pens and pencils and
Beermats and things in boxes
And now we must have clothes that
Keep us dry.
And pay rent and not swear in the street
And set a good example for the children
We must have friends to dinner and
Read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So that people who know me are not too
Shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old and start to
Wear purple.
Jenny Joseph
When I Am Old is one of the many poems sayings etc that I have on my office cork board.
I think it scares my grown up kids to think I might get like that>:-)
Gill
Oops maybe I am
Beautifully said and so wise and it reflects my experience of aging too, even at only 49!
I've so noticed a change in my attitude to all sorts of things, mainly money and stress, since I was diagnosed… even been accused of being Pollyanna. LOL! But I'm happy/content most of the time and that has to be a good thing and helpful to healing.
Here's another another poem that I like, which mirrors the above two. I have it in my bathroom, next to the toilet, for pondering purposes.
[b]If you have a dream[/b]
Don't wait for some distant day to come
It may be too late before you've even begun.
Not everyone will agree with all you decide
Be true to yourself foremost.
The only important thing in life is what you do
with the time you spend here on Earth.
Don't be afraid to follow your desires,
they are not silly or selfish.
Take the time and do what makes you feel alive
Leave the fears and regrets in the past,
for this is where they belong.
Don't cloud today with things that can't be undone.
You have no more control over yesterday or tomorrow
than you do the raging of your passions.
Do not quiet these dreams or quench your desires.
For if you do, your journey is ended.
You have only today to begin anew and follow your dreams.
For in the end all we have are our memories.
When the twilight comes to us, let there be
No excuses, no explanations, no regrets.
Having read all those poems and understood them as being me!
I realize must get a grip with the one desire in my life.
For years I have wanted a pair of 'in line skates' every time I see them I want them, but my age has prevented me either buying them (not to mention the fear of a broken ankle) or telling anyone that that is what I want
But Im gong to do it, if only to say I got them, What do you want to do that age and health have prevented?
Hi
I'd love to go in a air balloon. Or even to a wild life park in Africa.
Butttt Wheelchairs can't get in balloons, and I think a lion will get me don't you.
Roz
It was so good to see a post from you Roz, and such an insightful one too!
It summed up many of my feelings and current attitude to life so well.
And thank you to the rest of you for the poems you posted.
Eliz
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Go for it, Min… the inline skates! You just have to do it!
While I was ill, but before I was diagnosed, I began a list of Things I Want to Do… (the unsaid bit was "before I die"):
In no particular order:
1. Take part in a flashmob
2. Perform Playback in public
3. Have a compassionate conversation with my mum, without losing my temper or trying to be right
4. Visit Paris with a lover
5. Waltz in Vienna
6. Finally complete a knitting project
7. Have a ceramic studio and make ceramics in it
8. Not need to be 'employed' by anyone ever again
9. Have a dog
10. Learn to relax, possibly meditate
11. Spread happiness by regular random acts of kindness and generosity
12. Do what I love, want, need – forget the "shoulds"
13. Keep breaking rules
14. Learn to play the harmonica… maybe in several keys!
15. Take inspiration from friends
16. Get rid of the extraneous crap
I already have two harmonicas… I just need to find myself a teacher. I went to a music shop the other day to enquire if they knew anyone. They gave me two contact numbers to try, so I've made a start.
I've also started to get quotes for some fencing so my back garden is secure for when I'm ready to take on a dog.
I don't think I'll ever stop breaking rules… seems to be in my ornery nature. LOL!
Roz
How lovely you must be a great friend I agree with every word
Lots of love jO X
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