[2ndbubbleParticipant]

Sadly we lost my mum at 1.30am friday morning aged 64.
For some reason the Myeloma was faster moving than anyone could expect.
Mum did her road trip and took in Liverpool (the cavern an obvious stop for a beatles lover), Edinburgh, Whitby and York only coming home early as she was so fatigued. Two days later she had her monthly blood test and that evening got the phone call to say she needed a blood transfusion as her kidneys were failing.
An MRI revealed a tumor on her spine and radiotherapy was given to ease the pain in her back and leg. Suddenly instead of a year we were discussing lenalidomide to get mum through christmas as she desperately wanted a last christmas with all the family. 3 days later mums health was still declining and they were saying she had a few short weeks and plans to get mum home were made, two days later she had passed away.
5 weeks ago the hospital were saying mum had a year left and now we are left bewildered and missing the wonderful woman she was. Right up to the bitter end her sense of humor shone through and she worried about all of us terribly. She did us so proud and even wrote a letter each to my sister, daughter and myself.
So brave and strong. I can only hope that we all manage to continue on with the courage, dignity and pride that my mum showed us in her final days despite a rollercoaster that just kept going.

A huge thanks for all those who have given me such support on these pages.
Love Sarah x

[eveParticipant]

Hi Sarah

yes your mum was very brave, and still thinking of her lovely daughter's , in many ways your mum got her wish she did not want to spoil your Christmas, no one can prepare you for your mums death, but from what you say there was an acceptance on your mums part.

She might not be sitting at the Christmas table, but she will still be with you,

I would not think about what amount of time , people said your mum had or how quickly it developed, I have a believe that people choose there own time.
My condolences to you and your sister, I hope you find some comfort in your mums last holiday, plus she chose her own time, and did not want her lovely daughter's to be unhappy at Christmas.Love Eve

[tomParticipant]

Dear Sarah

I am so sorry your Mum lost her battle with Myeloma, you have my condolence to you and your Mums family and friends.

No time is a good time to lose a loved one as those that are left have to face up to the "First Time Without"

Stay as strong as your Mum was through out all the treatment and more so as it came to the end and you will all get through it.

Love and Hugs Tom xx

[sanParticipant]

Dear Sarah, wish i could say something to help you, but i too believe that she will still be with you though its hard as you will miss her so much, a special lady indeed,thinking of you and the family love San x

[AliParticipant]

Dear Sarah

I'm so sorry to hear the news of your Mum passing. I can't begin to know how you are feeling now. Your Mum was very brave, and so must you be now. Be kind to yourself.

Love Ali xx

[johnandjunediamondParticipant]

im in the same void as yourself at this time sarah, so well aware of your feelings,
keep busy is the only advice i can pass on,please accept my most sincere condolence's.
john.

[mhnevillParticipant]

Hi Sarah

I'm so sad to hear your sad news after your mum had fought so hard to hang onto life. She was a brave lady and I'm sure her legacy to you will be the strength to get through this sad time with dignity. I do hope her funeral is a fitting memorial of all the love and friendship she gave to others. I do hope you will take comfort from the number of folk who attend to show their love and appreciation.

Love and prayers.

Mavis xx

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