Dear All Thank you so much for your kind words they help me such a lot

Sue XXXX

Dear Susannah,
I can see she was particularly insensitive, but its done and she has given you the opportunity to prepare. Not many people get that opportunity, often dying suddenly whilst still hoping as I did with Peter so grasp the moments you share, to discuss all the .things you have been afraid to confront. Talk until you are horse and…[Read more]

Dear Gill,
I know how you feel, modern day society has no place for death. We all know we are going to die but no one wants to discuss it. Its the last social taboo.
I went out to lunch on Saturday with four lovely ladies from my group. I had only met one of them before but we talked non stop about our husbands, there death , our reactions to…[Read more]

Dear All

Thank you so much for your kind replys, and thank you Dai you have a special way with words.
Its 4am and I sit thinking of all the things I want to say to Michael, but then i just start to cry,how do you say goodbye to your sole mate, the person you have lived with for 34years.
I want to nurse Michael as long as I can, I cant bear…[Read more]

Here is my two pennies worth.
Peter had had a double heart bypass 8 years before his MM. Stress off the richter scale as daughter had booked her wedding in New York which co- incided with his op.
Fast forward 8 years and diagosis of MM. I knew in my heart of hearts because of how poorly he was at diagnosis there would be little chance of him…[Read more]

I am so sorry Rachel, he was far too young to die, and had so much more to give. My thoughts go out to you at a very sad time. My husband died in much the same way, from infection and the shock is too much to bear, when you have so much hope.
Please take good care of yourself and know I am thinking of you
Min

How did the Traipsing go Dai? Cant wait to hear all about it in glorious Technicolor and you usual ? prose? some photos wont go amiss too.
Waiting with baited breath
Min
ps hows my book coming on?

Dear Ann
Im so sorry John lost his battle to stay with you, cant imagine how awful it must be to fight cancer then succumb to some other retched disease. Life is just so unfair. My heart goes out to you and your family at this sad time.
Min

Hi Vicky,
So sorry you lost your Dad, and I understand how lost your mum must be.
There is an online support group called Merry Widows, and another called Way up. I found the merry widows too depressing personaly. But joined way up after about 4 months. Before then I don't think it would have helped as life is one big blurr of heartache and…[Read more]

Dai

Its just not right you going AWOL and not letting us know your unwell!
You must teach Janet how to use your computer in your absence or get a tablet to take to hospitals. 3g enabled of course.
Seriously though sorry to hear you have been in the war's with all the health problems in your history you would think they would keep you a bed in…[Read more]

Yes Helen I did get on holiday, it was brilliant. Loved every moment. Cried occasionally as we all did but on the whole laughed a lot too.
To date I have now gone the longest time with no intervention except reiki and I got 'wellied ' most nights and some afternoons too, so put my kidneys under a lot of stress! Lost the stress at last.and learnt…[Read more]

Hi Helen,
I wonder if you have considered Reiki?
I have had six kidney infections in the past six months. Each time suffering back ache followed by stomach pain, high temperature, then up all night going to the loo. I was on lots of anti biotics and pretty darn sick of it whilst waiting for a scan. I was going off on holiday to Crete with a…[Read more]

Hi David its called a Dead good job. On Wednesday evenings BBC2 Catch it on I player its weekly series
Min

Oh David you made me laugh. Just the kind of thing I wold do if I was able but woodwork and me dont get on.
But i read recently about ?Renting a coffin?
Yes you read correctly. Its a hire thing and if your plan is for cremation you hire the coffin up to the point where it goes in the furnace!!! Makes perfect sense to me.
Alternativley I like…[Read more]

Hi Sue
I dont know anything about a charge on the way site but there is no charge on the Way up site and there a a number of people under 50 on Way up who dont like the atmosphere on way, as well as the fact way deals a lot with mothers with young children.
I suggest you give way up a try and if you dont like it then you simply withdraw from…[Read more]

I have been fortunate to be invited to meet Gaynor at her home. she cooked Sunday lunch for 17 ******** it was my first meeting of other ?wuppers? I was terrified but determined to get out of the house after languishing in sorrow alone.
Its the best thing I have done since Peter passed away.
The support is amazing and next week I am going on…[Read more]

Hello Julie,
Its perfectly normal as a widow to have these questions and doubts.
Is there more I could have done. More the medical profession should have done.
In my case after peter died, I wanted answers too.
But some of the side effects of suffering a sudden bereavement, like post traumatic stress disorder,
Were so debilitating. I…[Read more]