Hi Gail.
12 months ago. I was in the same dark place you find yourself today. I had shared 40 years with my husband and life had no meaning after his death.
I found a group of people who support widows and widowers. We share our ups and downs. There are lots of downs at first. But the mutual support offered is amazing.
Widows are the only…[Read more]

You gave me something to think of there Gill, I had to dig out the copy of the service and there on the front cover of a beautiful booklet is the title Civil Funeral Celebrant.
So I thought it was humanist but I was wrong.
Should have realized when he allowed the Lords prayer at the end.
I have to tell you in case No one else does. My…[Read more]

Crikey Tom
I never detected an accent in you. Not once did you say ?och? the noo. Ive known you all this time and never known you were Scotish. Im half scot half annoying little ****.
Minx

Dear Gill
There is a kind of Limbo we live in until the funeral, when it all seems so unreal and like a dream or nightmare. This is the time we all knew was going to happen but wished with all our heart we could put off.
I had a humanist funeral for Peter and some friends who are regular church goers commented that it was the best service they…[Read more]

Dear Gill I havent been on the site for a while,until today. i am so very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family

Love
Sue x

Dearest Gill
I am so so sorry for your loss.
There are no words to help at his moment in time, other than I am thinking of you.
Stephens passing was traumatic for you but in time you will put that part behind you and remember the good times.
Suffice to say he is now out of his suffering and yours begins in a different way.
Strength will…[Read more]

My dear Gill
Stephen is no longer in coñtrol, MM is, how difficult to see him go downhill so fast.
Somewhere inside is the man you love,and he will be equally afraid as you are. You need all your family around you at times like this to remind you to stay in control just a little longer.
Once they have made him comfortable and possibly sedated…[Read more]

Dear Gill.
I am happy your still able to laugh at life.
Might I suggest that you seek a Macmillan nurse now. they really are amazing at the pain game.
They come to the house it is there job to ensure Stephen is pain free. But not so out of it he cant communicate or join in and argument. I found the support amazing and the products they supply…[Read more]

Dear Gill and Stephen.
What can I say to ease the heartache I know you are feeling?
There are no words that will make the journey any easier, or less painful
Niether of you can prepare for what life has in store for you.
But with what ever time you have left to love each other, talk talk and talk somemore.
Dont leave anything unsaid, dont…[Read more]

Hi Dai,
Happy days. I seem to recall that when Peter was admitted as an emergency!! He had similar experiences.
What would they have done if you were incapable of giving them all the meds you were on? Worrying.
Thank goodness you survived the poor quality care. Makes you wonder if you should have stayed at home and called out someone.…[Read more]

Oh dear Dai
In the wars again. Hope they can fix it for you. Been away again for a while and haven't looked in in ages .
Wishing you a speedy recovery
Minx

Dear Gill,
Your in my thoughts and I know you will find the strength to take you through
Whatever life has to throw at you. Pm me if you feel up to it.
Min x

Dear Teresa. And Judy
I am so sorry to hear of the passing of your husbands.
I know it is no consolation, but I am sure you will agree with the thought that they have both fought long and hard and are are no longer suffering.
Its those who are left to grieve who suffer now, a pain which is indescrbable.
The dark tunnel you both now find…[Read more]

Hi Andy, Proff Jackson is a really nice approachable down to earth man. Tell them at the desk that you are on his list. Or one of t hem may pick up your notes.
There are a few blue badge bays near to the entrance, and you will be on the ground floor that you enter by. At the rear of the hospital. Follow signs for the Bobby Robson unit from…[Read more]

Heaven has gained an Angel,and we have lost a very dear friend. Dear Bridget has been in my thoughts a good many times lately. Imagining how her husband and children are coping with the reality of an event which seams surreal
It stirred memories that I would rather forget and tears that she would have consoled me for shedding.

Her suffering…[Read more]

Myeloma uk produces a very good diary that you can record all in regarding treatments side effects etc and would urge you all to acquire one,they are available at no charge, but don't be mean, make a small donation .you know every penny is well spent.
Min lying in bed with a minor irritating illness

Hi eve
peter was having platelets almost every other day- of and on -eventualy they gave him an injection that helped.
He never had any with his first sct, but by now you know every one is different. If he is getting them its because he needs them. It all takes time,and the worrying does not stop. But think posative……..
Min x

Hi Eve Im sorry to here about Slim, I do remember Michael having Platelets after his second Sct, I was expecting red in colour and they were more yellow. He had about 3 or 4 bags

Love Suex

Dear Siobhan I am so sorry for your loss, I will miss her so much. Although we never spoke we did exchange emails, she has been such a comfort to me

God Bless
Sue x