Hi Fiona, I think the initial phases are always the worse in any illness. I failed my first stem cell harvest and then had to wait 5/6 months for the Bone Marrow to rebuild. I had my next attempt a month ago and it went very well. I got 2 million plus out on the first day. That gives me a pool of 3 500 000 for my transplant which, fingers crossed, will start on the 22nd this month. I should add I am 68 so this will be my first and last Stem Cell Transplant,
It must be very difficult for you. I have always been very open about my illness with both friends and family; I email an "update" to 25 people!
I would gently keep plugging away and seeking to discuss it with your Mum and Dad, my view (which I am not saying is the right view just mine!) is that you have a right to know. One piece of key information you should seek is the level of Paraprotien, this in most people is the measurement of cancer cells in the body. For example mine was 33 at diagnosis (18 months ago) and at the last count was 1.8. Your Mother will no doubt have blood tests, before her appointments, they take the measurements of PP level them. If your mother is not asking for this information see if you can persuade her to ask. Clearly you do not want to upset her but asking for that information might just help her to talk about it.
Kindest regards
David
p.s. Welcome to our little group :-/