Hi Amanda just want to add my welcome to you and your sister , and your mum too of course . I think its brilliant that you and your sister are keen to support your mum ,( I dont like the word carer either!), and I bet she is as proud as punh of both of you . I think Debs made a good point about this time without treatment will give you all time to adjust and get your head around the cancer issue too . Try and take each day as it comes If you fill your head with a lot of information at this stage it will be very confusing , its not until you actually start treatment that it makes sense Having said that there are lots of us on here to answer any questions you might have or support you if you need us .I hope its a very long time before your mum needs treatment , please pass on my best wishes Bridget