Thank you Carol, believe it or not they are 6 of us brothers and sisters. Me and my sister are the main carers, take mum to appointments, do shopping, check mum is ok and on the right medication,ring round everywhere and tell people off when need be. We go for our day with mum to her house on saturday and have a good natter some dinner and a brew. Thats our day, today it will be at the hospital. My brothers are not living near home so keep in touch to see how things are, one brother lives with mum and he helps in the house etc. My mum is the same she worries that she is dependent on us and doesnt want us to be running around after her(how she puts it) But we love our mum and have told her we dont mind at all doing anything for her( she has done it for us all our lives, we lost our dad in 1989 age 52 to cancer) So mum is probably like you The carers worry about their mum, dad ,husband wife etc, and the mm sufferer worry about them. Swings and roundabouts as they say.
Thank you again for your reply and advice it is greatly appreciated
Gina xxxx